We become addicted to our sadness because it makes us feel alive in a world where we feel dead inside.Feeling anything is better than feeling nothing.
We become addicted to our sadness because pain is beautiful.
There is no pain without passion and no heartbreak without love.
Our shared pain connects us and our compassion holds us together.
I wanted a forever love that could withstand all conditions. I wanted a loyal and undying love — a love that was true when nothing else was. I wanted a love that would journey over mountains and across oceans to find its way — a love that stretched beyond eternity.
Why do we think finding someone to blame, any time we feel discontent, will make things better? For some reason, we are prone to believe that if we can find someone to blame for a situation, we will feel better about it. This could not be further from the truth, which is why I have always been so fascinated by this concept. Blaming others is making a conscious decision to give our own power away. Whether someone else’s behavior led to our current situation or not, focusing on blaming them will not help us or make us feel better. If anything, using our energy to blame only diminishes our effectiveness.
Many of us have had relationships with people who we love in a very powerful way. This love feels so strong that it feels like it could heal the deepest of wounds and save the most lost souls. We feel like we could move mountains with this love. And in some ways, we can. But in other ways, we cannot. It is our inability or unwillingness to accept this that leads us towards toxic relationships and away from self-love.
Simply hearing someone say, “forgiveness is for you”, isn’t enough to process our emotional pain in a way that allows us to forgive — especially when our pain is caused by someone we believe should love us. This could be anyone from a parent or sibling to a partner or best friend.
Anyone who has lost someone they love knows the excruciating pain that comes along with that loss. Anyone who is in a successful long-term relationship knows the amount of compromise it takes to keep that relationship happy and functional. Anyone who has children knows of the thankless work and relentless devotion necessary to be a good parent. Anyone who has ever loved knows that true love requires sacrifice.
When we are truly in love with someone, we are willing to pay for that love with much more than silver and gold. Love is not a commodity to be bought, sold and traded, but it is a precious energy that costs us our life force.
I believe that there is a gross misconception about the definition of unconditional love. It seems that a lot of people are under the mistaken impression that in order to love people unconditionally it is necessary to endure various levels of abuse from these people.